Boy meets girl under a circumstances, girl has no interest in him. Boy texts/calls girl every now and then, but nine out of ten times girl didn’t pick up, otherwise girl will take her time to reply. However, the reason girl rarely reply boy was because of his nonsensical talk. Sometimes, it doesn’t make sense, and sometimes, boy tried to be funny. To summarise, boy tried too hard to impress girl.
These are always easier said than done. I am no love expert, but based on my friends’ past verbal complains, these are the results I have accumulated. Hence, these are what I think you should avoid doing to people you like when it is one-sided and unrequited from a girl’s perspective.
1. Do not tell her that you ‘like her directly’ or ‘want to learn how to pick up girls when you actually mean her indirectly’
Is this a confession? If not, do not tell her that you like her so abruptly! Not unless she questions you out of curiosity. But even so, you could always deny (based on my one and only experience, it is best to deny).
Aside from that, it is a no-no. I mean seriously? It sounds like you’re desperate and girls will get turn off by that. If she was given a close-ended question, she will most likely turn you down or come out with a lame excuse or two of why she couldn’t accept you. It is the most awkward way of confessing I’ve ever seen. Any girl who got that would probably start avoiding you from then on. You want a more obvious hint than that?
2. Do not spam calls and text messages
a) It’s just plain annoying. b) You will scare her off. c) You can text, but please don’t say nonsensical things or keep meaningless topics going on and on. d) Don’t tell her lame jokes of yours that could only make yourself laugh while leaving her speechless. e) If she wasn’t responsive, then you should prolly stop messaging/bugging her.
3. Do not behave and react weirdly out of the blue for no reason
In another words, don’t do things just for the sake of doing, or things that makes no sense to the people you like. Many times, people do certain things just for the sake of doing, thinking that it is for the sake of the other party. Good intention, but nay. You sure that wouldn’t become an emotional burden to them? There are times whereby you do certain things because you feel that is the thing you should do when you like someone. How could you tell for sure that they will like whatever you do? If they do not feel the same as you, they’d probably feel obligated to accept what you did for them, and that’s just selfish.
4. Don’t compromise to them all the time
Please note that I said, not-all-the-time. Meaning once or twice, depending on situation, is fine. Not everyone knows how to appreciate the things that you have done. Some people may take your presence for granted. So you have to stop making assumptions on your side and don’t pressurise them. Let things take course naturally.
5. Do not shower them with gifts
To me, significantly on certain festive seasons or occasions are fine. Be creative with your gifts, it does not have to be expensive or branded products so as to be impressive. Then again, ask yourself, what kind of girls are you going for?
6. Play smart, but don’t act smart
You don’t have to be extremely clever. But who doesn’t like people that are knowledgeable? If you do not know what he/she is talking about, just listen, and be an attentive listener instead of making nonsensical remarks. You can try to be humorous, but don’t make a joke out of yourself. Note: that doesn’t mean you have to keep quiet all the time. Else, reality check; you’re boring.
7. No mind (fucking) games
Be sincere. To be honest, I have no idea how this work. All I know is that I don’t want to be drag into such games, and I wouldn’t do this to the one I sincerely have feelings for.
8. Don’t try too hard
I understand that you will want to impress the people you like with all your capabilities and what you have, but don’t try too hard. You might end up feeling that you have made great sacrifices and changes for her, and gradually you will expect her to feel the same for you. If she don’t, you will end up upsetting yourself. And if she likes you, she will reciprocate (someday). Just be yourself.
9. Expectation leads to disappointment
Hold no expectations. I know this is not easy, and trust me, I am learning the art of it as well. But I guess if you truly like this person, you should expect nothing but wish the best for her. I have always believe that something will eventually happen if you two are meant for each other. Do you know the thing about soulmate? That is whatever happens, there will always be this extraordinary energy that somehow pulls you two back together. Hence, no matter what happened they won’t be separated, and even if they do get separated, the energy will still draws them back together like the property of magnetism, the north pole and south pole line of force will always attracts each other.
Like any heart-throbbing love songs, songwriter wrote with their true feelings, passion and heart. Adele wrote Someone Like You after she broken up with her ex, James Blunt’s ex was the reason he wrote You’re Beautiful, and Ryan, he first wrote No Name to a girl who doesn’t know he likes her, and performed in front of 10 million viewers on Britain’s Got Talent. Enjoy.
Ryan O’Shaughnessy – No Name
Every now and then I see a part of you I’ve never seen
Birds can swim and fish can fly, the road is long I wonder why
One of these days you’ll realise what you mean to me, oh
Every now and then I see a part of you I’ve never seen
Every now and then I try to tell you just how I feel
The heavens talk, the rain begins, the sky turns black
Nobody wins
Well I try to talk but I can’t
My soul has turned to steel
This happens every now and then
When I try to tell you just how I feel
So if you ever love somebody
You gotta keep them close
When you lose grip of their body
You’ll be falling
‘Cause I’m falling
Deeper in love, in love [x4]
In love
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