If, and Only If

 ‘If this person you like met you before their last relationship happened, they might like you and things are likely to work out differently between you and this person. But before you met this person, they had gave their heart to someone else. We are late, too late to come into the picture that you wished it was you who would be able to know them first. They had their heart set on someone else before they met you.’ How would it be possible for them to give you what they had already given away? They probably think they have nothing left within them, and there is nothing more they can give. So what you see from them is the only thing you may ever get. All you can do is to be there as a friend, and only a platonic friend. There must not be selfish thoughts or anything more, or less chosen with intent self-inflicted pain.

It is a known fact that movies are an exaggerating version of life. Emma Donoghue wrote, “Sometimes when person says “definitely” it sound actually less true”, meaning sometimes the more you emphasize or want to prove a point, the more unreal it would seem. At other times, stories tell a different kind of truth. It could be the kind of truth based on one’s opinion and it could also be part of the truth which the person wants you to know.

Artists use frauds to make human beings seems more wonderful than they really are. Dancers show us human beings who move much more gracefully than human beings really move. Films and books and plays show us people talking much more entertainingly than people really talk, make paltry human enterprises seem important. Singers and musicians show us human beings making sounds far more lovely than human beings really make. Architects give us temples in which something marvelous is obviously going on. Actually, practically nothing is going on.

– Kurt Vonnegut, Wampeters, Foma and Granfalloons (1974)

We grow up watching movies that teach us how love, people or the world is like, and that raises peoples’ perception of what they know, see, and learn from movies throughout their lifetime. That is also why people often come across disappointments in life, because you would constantly be under the delusional aspect of expecting slightly-more or till the extent almost too much from a person. Disappointment is someone I avoid at all times. Don’t we all feel the same for them? It often seem to lie between two decisions, whether you should be brave to do what you want to do or continue to be afraid and slowly deal with fear. Hence, many times we thought to ourselves, thinking if things would have happened differently if we have made our decision otherwise instead of the action we took.

That is if, and only if.